What Women Weave made simple
Jul 15
I am Christine from Louisiana. I’ve lived in many other locales, and traveled extensively. My experiences have been vast and deep. And from them, I have distilled stories. Parables.
I address what woman are prone to do, from the first moment we meet a guy who accelerates our libido. It is due to desire, belief system, and magic. We are so happy when this is in effect, and we build up our man, at that stage of the game, as we weave and weave the pretty story! All women( perhaps all) are hardwired to do this, yet too few understand it fully. It is a sacrament, what women weave, and I suggest how to derive the most pleasure from it . And, how to not become delusional while doing so! Which is the tendency.
It is natural selection to attribute greatness to our man, above and beyond his legitimate station, for our adulation strengthens him, thus enhancing his ability to protect us, and our children. But so often it works against us. I break it down without dissecting or diminishing it, in order for us to take a look at what happens.
Guys have a very important symbiotic role in what women weave. We can’t get there, in most cases, without you! Men need to honor this “thing” women do, which is the basis of our happiness, instead of running like hell from it. But women first have to change their behavior and lose expectations associated with “it.”! Mechanisms are at work in our brains, pheromones and limbic system mysteries, which I explain, as I know limbic speak.
I expound on what women weave, which often leaves them deaf dumb and blind. Happy, but deaf dumb and blind. And, when they regain their senses and the spell is broken, the spell IS broken. They are unhappy. Nobody is weaving. And everyone is perplexed about the disappearance of pleasure in the relationship.
For women, this site offers a new liberation, a new understanding which can help women not feel heartbroken if a guy they’ve been head over heels about doesn’t offer to stay around, marry them, raise kids and never cheat.
If women changed their vantage point, and accepted the gift and the moment, without the strings attached, it would be a true paradigm shift. I’m not suggesting that the staying together isn’t ideal. I think it can be, if the relationship develops organically and isn’t contrived. But it doesn’t always happen that way. And, even if it appears to, Tiger Woods, Jesse James, John Kerry, and maybe even your best friend’s husband’s behavior, make monkey business out of monogamy.
With a different, less naive vantage point about sex, desire, relationships and expectations, women wouldn’t need therapists as much. Women would be less anxious and neurotic and fearful during and after sex, leaving more ram space for enjoyment. Enhancing womens’s ability to engage with their partner without any fear, in the renewal available through sex, is one objective. Sex could become the altar it was intended to be, at which male and female could worship together. Without issues. With a purity of being. Totally, unflinchingly porous. For that is Holy.
Read on.
And let me know what you think. Q and A is at top of page; click for advice on relationships, etc.
Christine
The stories that we women weave create a richness and fullness in our immediate life experiences and prepave unfolding realities. When the spell is broken and we find a discrepency between our story and our reality, we MUST shift our story a bit and continue to weave a positive, life affirming story. This is not the time to fall apart!
That, or cut bait, Carmen! Love concept of “prepave.” Keep weaving! And we’ll never fall apart. We’ve got laminins holding us together on a cellular level. They are in the shape of a cross with a caduceus at the center. Wikipedia it!
http://iheartverve.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/laminin-large2.jpg
Link for laminins! What Weaves in between our cells.
There has to be a “fail-safe”. As we’ve learned from the recent BP *DISASTER*, not having the right safety precautions could not only affect the company that put the rig out there and not only kill the people working on the rig but have reverberations that affect many many many innocents. :/
There has to be a trip-wire called “This man is WORTH my weaving”. WIthout it, as you know and have stated, the weaving begins automatically. Weaving all the right things about the wrong person often leads women down paths where y’all don’t realize the oil is spilling before it’s too late for all of us.
Yes, a fresh vantage point and more education are necessary components, as insurance that women don’t continue to make disastrous mistakes. But I’m not sure about what it will take to actually create a viable trip wire, more for “this man is NOT worth the weaving.” A circuit blower that would stop action. Stop weaving.
I like your analogy. What’s most valid, to me, is the innocents who get caught up in the debacle everytime. If women didn’t weave and weave the pretty story for every sorry ass loser that comes along we’d conserve so many resources, most of all ourselves!
I finally made time to sit down and read “what women read”, and It is quite interesting. Can’t wait to read tomorrow.
Thanks Nicki,
Nice to have you here.
Christine