I Pluck Every Other Petal…
Apr 17
Dear Julia and Christine,
I have a problem. At least, I think it is a problem. I become so absorbed with a guy as soon as I fall for him, which is pretty quickly. I think about him when I’m not with him. I play the sexual encounters over and over in my head. I feel as if I’m having conversations with him when he’s away. I feel, once I’ve made love to a man, that I have a special vibe with him. Is this too weird? Am I obsessive compulsive? Do you think that my total belief in my man might dim my perceptions of… another reality??
I PLUCK EVERY OTHER PETAL…he LOVES me!
Dear I Pluck…
Your moniker suggests that you already are aware of the reality screening going on in your brain. Why does it occur? Because you like it. The intense feelings of allowing yourself to be blindly in love thrill you. Congratulations on your ability to reach those high notes and feel fully alive. However, it’s the attendant expectations that will get you in trouble every time, when your love does become stacatto.
What Women Weave is dedicated to honoring the experiences you describe. It is our objective to encourage and support women in their exploration of every nuance of pleasure and connectedness proffered through LOVING. And we throw women an anchor, as well.
Moderation in all things.
Simply bringing awareness to the process allows the observer self to…observe without attachment. Tricky, but you asked.
The live wire in your chest and genitals is activated by pheremones released from your most important sex organ, your brain. Enjoy the cascading sensations that make you feel fully alive, and watch what happens. Everyone you encounter will feel a bit of the buzz you feel. And, we all know it’s true that men hit on us the most as soon as we begin a new relationship and consider ourselves “exclusive.” That’s the real.
Is the guy feeling your intimate imagined communications? In a word, no.
Are men Neanderthal, even in the 21st century, and for them it’s all about the pussy? Yes.
For details, I refer you to Bill Cammack’s site Dating Genius. http://billcammack.com/2009/09/09/ladies-how-to-get-to-know-your-boyfriend/
Enjoy it, the sex and sweetness of the man, and the fresh way you experience the world through him. But the violins and pretty door opening into the future you envisioned at age 6, that’s your conditioning and crossing your fingers behind your back with your eyes shut tight.
Don’t have any fear. Enjoy what you weave and accept your role in weaving in the same fashion that you accept that you salivate at the aroma of a good meal.
Don’t give so much credence to the salivating as it doesn’t insure great cuisine or sustenance. It just happens. As does the weaving.
Thank god for the weaving. It is the most fun WE have!!!! Weaving is, by definition repeating a pattern over and over, so obsessive, probably. But part and parcel of what we do, building up the pretty story of our man and our lives together.
Hope this shines light on the business of love, for you.
Best
Christine
The Weavers
Great points in christine´s reply. The key here is to enjoy those feelings, but not be crushed when you realize your loved one isn´t right there on the same level with you. Enjoy your ability to feel those feelings, marvel at your brain´s intricate weavings of pleasure, and be a realist, too. Non-attachment from the pretty picture means that you can appreciate the woven beauty of it, admiring it´s intricate nature, knowing that the feelings will grow and change as the relationship does and that it doesn´t define anything. There´s nothing wrong with what you are describing. It is exactly what this website is about. Thank you for sharing with us!